React or Respond?
When we react to something it often means that we allowed what has been said or done to put us in a tailspin causing us to have an instantaneous reaction, which is generally done without thinking.
In true danger, an instantaneous reaction might save us, but in the illusion of danger it is likely to simply set us up for more stones to be cast, moving us closer toward danger, not away from it.
When we are reacting to someone’s words, for example, it is likely that they hit within us an unhealed wound. And although their words may be unkind, our reaction becomes engagement. We are engaging with the other person, allowing them to have at least momentary power over us. Instead, as we feel the desire to react, we should pause, and search for the unhealed part of us.
The first evaluation when we feel prompted to react, is to ask ourselves some key questions. Is this truly a crisis? Does this moment truly require I act? And is it wise to do so immediately without thinking?
Sadly, some people thrive on provocation. Knowing they can engage you and lead you to lose control and then be angry at yourself for your behavior, is an entertainment that never gets old. Yet, when we take charge of who we are in all our moments, we will only be entertaining for mature loving souls. When we choose to not be negatively triggered, we quickly become boring to those who live to incite those negative reactions.
In the pause, you can garner wisdom, and then choose how and if to respond.
The more we go within and gain understanding of our wounds and move toward healing, the more impervious we become to others inappropriate or cruel actions or words. We are not impervious as in the hard substance that cannot be penetrated, we are impervious in that we don’t let anything pass through to us which is intended to harm. We become impervious in that we are unaffected by the inappropriate behavior of others. We become clear on when it is real danger that requires us to act, and when to be immune as stones are cast.
Our reactions define us. So we must evaluate who we choose to be. Take the pause.
As we evaluate objectively the appropriate response or consequence…we are one step closer to living freely on our terms.
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Life is not meant to be a struggle, and healing from harsh forces is a beautiful, gentle awakening to the one limiting core belief—the red thorn—that can be gently released (not extracted).
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